Its been awhile since I have been here. The few weeks have been not stressful but busy. First it was the book fair at school. Then is was news from Florida that had me concerned, I went to Florida for a few days but there wasn't much I could do to assist with the situation. I felt helpless and not useful. After a few days I came home. It was a long drive down and a long drive back. But I went and i know things will work out but I just wish I could have done more. And they only other excuse is that life got busy, with the holidays and end of the semester work. i have about 2 days left before starting back to school, so I will begin the new year running, just to get ready for Monday.
I wish everyone a very Happy New Year. I know the new will be better then the old one. I just feel it. I pray with Gods help it will be a better new year for all of us.
Foods to Put You in the Mood
Throughout history, food has been linked to good health and increased sexual desire. Casanova, the famous Venetian womanizer, was known to munch on oysters, while honey was supposedly Aphrodite’s nectar du jour when it came to improving sexual performance. Sure, a romantic candlelit dinner can do wonders when it comes to creating a relaxed, intimate, sensual mood, but the foods we consume also appear to have a direct correlation to increased sexual appetite. According to researchers, the taste, smell and appearance of food can also act as powerful aphrodisiacs.
Whether you’re looking to rev things up with a new guy or spice up an established relationship, try indulging in some of these high-powered sexy edibles; all ten have been shown to kick-start your libido, revive sexual performance and enhance overall health.
Almonds
Historically, almonds have long been a symbol of fertility. A healthy source of protein, they're a natural energy booster, which, in turn, can increase in sexual drive. Additionally, the scent is said to excite women, so it’s not surprising that almond oil is a common ingredient in soaps and lotions. The almond also has roots in the Bible, where Samson wooed Delilah with aromatic almond branches.
Asparagus
This erotic vegetable may be the quintessential libido booster as it contains high levels of vitamin E, which aids in producing sex hormones. After being dubbed an aphrodisiac during the Renaissance, asparagus was later banned from the dining tables of most convents. The Vegetarian Society suggests “eating asparagus for three days for the most powerful effect.”
Avocado
It’s not surprising that the Aztecs called the avocado tree, ahuacatl or "testicle tree” based on how much its fruit resembles the male body part. This green tropical marvel also contains vitamin B6, which increases male hormones, and potassium, which aids in regulating the female thyroid gland. Both B6 and potassium are reported to increase libido.
Bananas
Its suggestive shape aside, this popular fruit also contains bromelain, an enzyme which aids in boosting male libido. On top of this, bananas contain potassium and B vitamins, such as riboflavin, which raise the body's overall energy levels.
Celery
Celery may not be the first food that comes to mind when it comes to increasing sexual desire. But this crunchy, low-cal veggie contains an odorless hormone called androsterone, which, when released through male perspiration, is known to increase female sexual arousal.
Chillis
Hot, spicy chilli peppers contain capsaicin, a chemical known to release endorphins and create a feeling of happiness and pleasure. Chillis can increase blood flow and heart rate, and they also stimulate nerve endings, resulting in increased sexual urges.
Chocolate
Dubbed the “love chemical,” the Aztec emperor Montezuma was said to consume large amounts of chocolate in an effort to enhance his sexual prowess before entering his harem. During modern times, researchers have attributed chocolate’s aphrodisiac properties to the stimulant phenylethylamine, which creates a general sense of well-being, similar to an endorphin rush.
Chocolate also releases the amino acid tryptophan, which produces the neurotransmitter serotonin. Known as "the feel-good brain hormone," serotonin helps to stabalize mood and diminish anxiety, all great calming aides that ultimately boost sexual desire.
Figs
Originally from Syria – and allegedly Cleopatra’s fave food – this ancient, erotic, fleshy fruit replicates female genitalia in its appearance. Figs are high in amino acids, which increase libido and boost sexual stamina. In some Southern European countries wedding guests toss figs instead of rice, to encourage fertility.
Ginger
Reports on the effects of ginger date back as far as Chinese philosopher, Confucius (500 B.C.), who was said to never be without the tangy herb. It is also referred to in the Kama Sutra as a powerful aphrodisiac. Fresh ginger root stimulates your circulatory system, improves blood flow to sexual organs, and contains libido-lifting Vitamin C, zinc and magnesium.
Oysters
Bearing a strong resemblance to female genitalia, oysters are widely-regarded as a powerful aphrodisiac – and for good reason. High in the mineral zinc, which contributes to testosterone production, these slippery mollusks also contain D-aspartic acid, a powerful chemical that triggers the release of sex hormones.
Whether you’re looking to rev things up with a new guy or spice up an established relationship, try indulging in some of these high-powered sexy edibles; all ten have been shown to kick-start your libido, revive sexual performance and enhance overall health.
Almonds
Historically, almonds have long been a symbol of fertility. A healthy source of protein, they're a natural energy booster, which, in turn, can increase in sexual drive. Additionally, the scent is said to excite women, so it’s not surprising that almond oil is a common ingredient in soaps and lotions. The almond also has roots in the Bible, where Samson wooed Delilah with aromatic almond branches.
Asparagus
This erotic vegetable may be the quintessential libido booster as it contains high levels of vitamin E, which aids in producing sex hormones. After being dubbed an aphrodisiac during the Renaissance, asparagus was later banned from the dining tables of most convents. The Vegetarian Society suggests “eating asparagus for three days for the most powerful effect.”
Avocado
It’s not surprising that the Aztecs called the avocado tree, ahuacatl or "testicle tree” based on how much its fruit resembles the male body part. This green tropical marvel also contains vitamin B6, which increases male hormones, and potassium, which aids in regulating the female thyroid gland. Both B6 and potassium are reported to increase libido.
Bananas
Its suggestive shape aside, this popular fruit also contains bromelain, an enzyme which aids in boosting male libido. On top of this, bananas contain potassium and B vitamins, such as riboflavin, which raise the body's overall energy levels.
Celery
Celery may not be the first food that comes to mind when it comes to increasing sexual desire. But this crunchy, low-cal veggie contains an odorless hormone called androsterone, which, when released through male perspiration, is known to increase female sexual arousal.
Chillis
Hot, spicy chilli peppers contain capsaicin, a chemical known to release endorphins and create a feeling of happiness and pleasure. Chillis can increase blood flow and heart rate, and they also stimulate nerve endings, resulting in increased sexual urges.
Chocolate
Dubbed the “love chemical,” the Aztec emperor Montezuma was said to consume large amounts of chocolate in an effort to enhance his sexual prowess before entering his harem. During modern times, researchers have attributed chocolate’s aphrodisiac properties to the stimulant phenylethylamine, which creates a general sense of well-being, similar to an endorphin rush.
Chocolate also releases the amino acid tryptophan, which produces the neurotransmitter serotonin. Known as "the feel-good brain hormone," serotonin helps to stabalize mood and diminish anxiety, all great calming aides that ultimately boost sexual desire.
Figs
Originally from Syria – and allegedly Cleopatra’s fave food – this ancient, erotic, fleshy fruit replicates female genitalia in its appearance. Figs are high in amino acids, which increase libido and boost sexual stamina. In some Southern European countries wedding guests toss figs instead of rice, to encourage fertility.
Ginger
Reports on the effects of ginger date back as far as Chinese philosopher, Confucius (500 B.C.), who was said to never be without the tangy herb. It is also referred to in the Kama Sutra as a powerful aphrodisiac. Fresh ginger root stimulates your circulatory system, improves blood flow to sexual organs, and contains libido-lifting Vitamin C, zinc and magnesium.
Oysters
Bearing a strong resemblance to female genitalia, oysters are widely-regarded as a powerful aphrodisiac – and for good reason. High in the mineral zinc, which contributes to testosterone production, these slippery mollusks also contain D-aspartic acid, a powerful chemical that triggers the release of sex hormones.
Sleep Time Lingerie For Men
What better time of day to enjoy lingerie than at night, when the world has gone to bed, the land is cloaked in darkness and the realm of dreams takes over, for a few short hours to become reality. If you're not yet enjoying lingerie as part of your nighttime routine, you can be in very short order.
Nylon nightgowns are a popular choice for many men who enjoy the sensation of being enfolded in their favorite fabric. Then there's also the fact that a gown is one of the most feminine types of attire a man can wear, which makes for double the fun.
If a nightgown is going too far, how about a babydoll?
Babydoll
Babydolls are popular pieces of short nightwear, they're designed to fall to the upper thigh and to flare out slightly when worn, which makes them very cute and feminine. Some babydolls spilt open underneath the cleavage, exposing the stomach, however traditional babydolls do not split. Whilst a split looks vaguely alluring, it is not of much use to a man who likes the sensation of wearing a nice piece of lingerie. Most babydolls tend to be low cut, so a shaved chest is a perfect accompaniment to a sweet nylon or satin lace trimmed babydoll. The pictured piece is from Betsey Johnson, and is a pleated chiffon babydoll.
Camisole
Of course, you don't have to wear a gown or dress type piece of lingerie at all. There's no reason why you can't simply wear a nice pair of panties to bed, perhaps teamed with a nice light camisole. Plenty of women choose to sleep in panty / cami combos, they tend to be light, comfortable and there's still plenty of lingerie fabric to enjoy in the night.
Nylon camisoles are an excellent investment for a man who likes panties and would like to enjoy the soft embrace of nylon and satin, and if you don't own one as yet, then you're in for a world of enjoyment. Olga camisoles are an excellent brand, and though most of them are now termed as being vintage pieces for reasons best known to Olga, I'd recommend purchasing one if you happen to be lucky enough to find one. Like Olga panties, they are well made, comfortable and trimmed to feminine perfection.
What do you sleep in at the moment? What's your favorite piece of night time lingerie?
Nylon nightgowns are a popular choice for many men who enjoy the sensation of being enfolded in their favorite fabric. Then there's also the fact that a gown is one of the most feminine types of attire a man can wear, which makes for double the fun.
If a nightgown is going too far, how about a babydoll?
Babydoll
Babydolls are popular pieces of short nightwear, they're designed to fall to the upper thigh and to flare out slightly when worn, which makes them very cute and feminine. Some babydolls spilt open underneath the cleavage, exposing the stomach, however traditional babydolls do not split. Whilst a split looks vaguely alluring, it is not of much use to a man who likes the sensation of wearing a nice piece of lingerie. Most babydolls tend to be low cut, so a shaved chest is a perfect accompaniment to a sweet nylon or satin lace trimmed babydoll. The pictured piece is from Betsey Johnson, and is a pleated chiffon babydoll.
Camisole
Of course, you don't have to wear a gown or dress type piece of lingerie at all. There's no reason why you can't simply wear a nice pair of panties to bed, perhaps teamed with a nice light camisole. Plenty of women choose to sleep in panty / cami combos, they tend to be light, comfortable and there's still plenty of lingerie fabric to enjoy in the night.
Nylon camisoles are an excellent investment for a man who likes panties and would like to enjoy the soft embrace of nylon and satin, and if you don't own one as yet, then you're in for a world of enjoyment. Olga camisoles are an excellent brand, and though most of them are now termed as being vintage pieces for reasons best known to Olga, I'd recommend purchasing one if you happen to be lucky enough to find one. Like Olga panties, they are well made, comfortable and trimmed to feminine perfection.
What do you sleep in at the moment? What's your favorite piece of night time lingerie?
Buttons
Being at one time a teacher of clothing and textiles, fabrics and sewing; the topic of buttons had been a research topics of a few of my students. I knew from their research why buttons were on different sides so here is the simple answer about why buttons are on different sides of garments. Just a copy and paste from a web site.
It seems a little odd – and it’s not something that anyone but costumers, cross-dressers, and tailors have occasion to notice much – but men’s shirts and women’s blouses button from different directions.
This might make sense if most women were left-handed and most men were right-handed, but as it is, most people are right-handed. So what’s the deal?
The reason has its roots in both custom and fashion. In the last few centuries of modern dress, both men and women wore more clothes than they do today (which is probably just as well, as they also bathed a lot less than they do today).
Depending on the era, men might wear waistcoats, pantaloons, gaiters and wool jackets. But women’s clothing was far more elaborate, and could consist of a dozen or more garments including petticoats, bloomers, gowns, corsets and bustles.
Thus, especially in middle- and upper-class society, men generally dressed themselves, whereas women did not. Instead, maids and servants might spend an hour or more dressing the lady of the house. Clothiers soon realized that reversing the buttons on women’s clothes made the job faster and easier for all involved. Because men were not dressed by servants, there was no need to reverse the buttons on their garments, and thus a custom was born.
Why has this tradition carried into the modern era, when women can dress themselves, thank you very much? For the same reason that most people still type on the QWERTY keyboard: it’s customary. There’s no real reason the buttons couldn’t be switched, it’s just that nobody has bothered to change a tradition that few people notice or complain about in the first place.
It seems a little odd – and it’s not something that anyone but costumers, cross-dressers, and tailors have occasion to notice much – but men’s shirts and women’s blouses button from different directions.
This might make sense if most women were left-handed and most men were right-handed, but as it is, most people are right-handed. So what’s the deal?
The reason has its roots in both custom and fashion. In the last few centuries of modern dress, both men and women wore more clothes than they do today (which is probably just as well, as they also bathed a lot less than they do today).
Depending on the era, men might wear waistcoats, pantaloons, gaiters and wool jackets. But women’s clothing was far more elaborate, and could consist of a dozen or more garments including petticoats, bloomers, gowns, corsets and bustles.
Thus, especially in middle- and upper-class society, men generally dressed themselves, whereas women did not. Instead, maids and servants might spend an hour or more dressing the lady of the house. Clothiers soon realized that reversing the buttons on women’s clothes made the job faster and easier for all involved. Because men were not dressed by servants, there was no need to reverse the buttons on their garments, and thus a custom was born.
Why has this tradition carried into the modern era, when women can dress themselves, thank you very much? For the same reason that most people still type on the QWERTY keyboard: it’s customary. There’s no real reason the buttons couldn’t be switched, it’s just that nobody has bothered to change a tradition that few people notice or complain about in the first place.
Kisses
A kiss. A cuddle. A stroke of the hair. Hands held. Noses nuzzled. Want to know the state of a relationship? Watch how a couple touches each other—before, during and after sex. As you very well may know, the sexual act is more than just penetration, and can take many different forms. Here are some examples:
• Drunken college co-eds initiate intercourse with a massage on a dorm room bed. They have sex, pass out promptly and one leaves the other early the next morning. Both are relieved.
• Couple in a new relationship feel as if they can't live without each other. When they have sex, they devour each other. Afterward, they stare into one another's eyes, stroke one another's face and breathe one another's breath.
• Long-time lovers prepare for bed with their nighttime ritual. He helps her unfasten her bra. She rubs that sore spot on his back. They make love and fall asleep in the usual position, back to stomach: a spoon.
"Penetration may be the culmination," says Dr. Dorree Lynn, author of Sex For Grownups, "but sex is a process with a beginning, middle and end," with touch playing an important role throughout.
Before sex, you touch someone initially to let them know they are desired. The clumsy massage. The hand across the table. The grooming of a wayward combover. From their response, you know how to proceed. Holding Hands Is Ridiculously Good For You
During the act, of course, touch creates arousal and, ultimately, brings about the orgasm.
Afterward, touch completes the act, winding you down as it wound you up. In your vulnerability, you lay in each other's arms. Fingers slowly caress as bodies regain equilibrium. As you drift asleep, toes touch toes. The connection is not broken.
"Touching lets you know that your partner is involved with you, and that you're not just two genitals that have done their thing," says Dr. Lynn. "For women, touching is validation that she is more than a receptacle."
Warm Feet and Orgasms
Did you know…
Women are more likely to orgasm if their feet are warm.
Scientists say that a woman will be 30% more likely to have an orgasm if her feet are warm. As a woman I can attest: Cold feet in bed are a distraction and warmed feet are a luxury. So men, think about -
• massaging your partner’s feet with warm oil as part of your foreplay
• cozying her feet in a heated microwaveable massage wrap
• pre-heat her foot of the bed with the heating pad.
• or surprise her with a new ’sex toy’ – a pair of those soft and warm microfiber fuzzy socks.
There’s another aspect that’s even more significant than any of these suggestions: When you pamper your lover it opens her heart deepening the emotional intimacy, which allows her to relax more into her sexuality.
But, here’s the thing:
When you routinely pamper her in the same ways, it becomes more ‘routine’ and less ‘pampering.’ So, get creative. Think about what else would add to her comfort and enjoyment: a new scented massage lotion, fur mitten, relaxing music, a fuzzy throw, warmed room, decadent chocolate snack…
And, when you routinely pamper her in new, innovative ways, anticipation is added to the mix – a super aphrodisiac!
Women are more likely to orgasm if their feet are warm.
Scientists say that a woman will be 30% more likely to have an orgasm if her feet are warm. As a woman I can attest: Cold feet in bed are a distraction and warmed feet are a luxury. So men, think about -
• massaging your partner’s feet with warm oil as part of your foreplay
• cozying her feet in a heated microwaveable massage wrap
• pre-heat her foot of the bed with the heating pad.
• or surprise her with a new ’sex toy’ – a pair of those soft and warm microfiber fuzzy socks.
There’s another aspect that’s even more significant than any of these suggestions: When you pamper your lover it opens her heart deepening the emotional intimacy, which allows her to relax more into her sexuality.
But, here’s the thing:
When you routinely pamper her in the same ways, it becomes more ‘routine’ and less ‘pampering.’ So, get creative. Think about what else would add to her comfort and enjoyment: a new scented massage lotion, fur mitten, relaxing music, a fuzzy throw, warmed room, decadent chocolate snack…
And, when you routinely pamper her in new, innovative ways, anticipation is added to the mix – a super aphrodisiac!
Tasteful Teddies
One of my personal favorite pieces of lingerie, the teddy, is often overlooked for more run of the mill lingerie, like bras and panties. One piece lingerie sets seem to have gone the way of the one piece swimsuit, but why?
A teddy, for the uninitiated, is a body suit like item of lingerie that is slid into like a pair of panties and rises up the body to cover the bosom. Some teddies are designed to help shape the body into a lovely female form, others are less restrictive.
If you look at a retailer like Yandy.com, you'll come across a whole range of teddies with bits hacked out of them. Teddies that expose the midriff, the sides of the stomach, the belly button, in other words, teddies that largely defy the purpose of the teddy, which is to present the body in an alluring fashion without giving away all its secrets. I would not advise the average lingerie wearing male to invest in such pieces as they are as unlikely to flatter the figure as they are to feel good when worn. If the point of wearing lingerie is to feel good in it, then why hack the bulk of the garment away? Inquiring minds want to know!
Finding a teddy that has some measure of class about it is becoming increasingly difficult these days, but all hope should not be lost. It is still possible to discover teddies that don't make the wearer look as if they aspire to being a lady of the night. Here are two samples, culled from the depths of the Internet.
The pictured teddy is from Twenga, and I feel that it is a rather charming piece of lingerie. The crochet gives it something of a homely feel, which contrasts nicely with the blue frou frou trim and the overall tone of the garment, which is alluring in the extreme. Who knew that a series of knots could create something so terribly charming?
A teddy, for the uninitiated, is a body suit like item of lingerie that is slid into like a pair of panties and rises up the body to cover the bosom. Some teddies are designed to help shape the body into a lovely female form, others are less restrictive.
If you look at a retailer like Yandy.com, you'll come across a whole range of teddies with bits hacked out of them. Teddies that expose the midriff, the sides of the stomach, the belly button, in other words, teddies that largely defy the purpose of the teddy, which is to present the body in an alluring fashion without giving away all its secrets. I would not advise the average lingerie wearing male to invest in such pieces as they are as unlikely to flatter the figure as they are to feel good when worn. If the point of wearing lingerie is to feel good in it, then why hack the bulk of the garment away? Inquiring minds want to know!
Finding a teddy that has some measure of class about it is becoming increasingly difficult these days, but all hope should not be lost. It is still possible to discover teddies that don't make the wearer look as if they aspire to being a lady of the night. Here are two samples, culled from the depths of the Internet.
The pictured teddy is from Twenga, and I feel that it is a rather charming piece of lingerie. The crochet gives it something of a homely feel, which contrasts nicely with the blue frou frou trim and the overall tone of the garment, which is alluring in the extreme. Who knew that a series of knots could create something so terribly charming?
Antecedote
Q: Why are condoms transparent?
A: So that sperms can at least enjoy the scene even if their entry is ...
A: So that sperms can at least enjoy the scene even if their entry is ...
Restricted!
Signboard outside a prostitute's house:
Married MEN not allowed. We serve the needy, not the greedy...
New AIDS awareness slogan:
Try different positions with the same woman instead of same position with different women.
Why is Sex like shaving?
Well, because no matter how well you do it today...
Signboard outside a prostitute's house:
Married MEN not allowed. We serve the needy, not the greedy...
New AIDS awareness slogan:
Try different positions with the same woman instead of same position with different women.
Why is Sex like shaving?
Well, because no matter how well you do it today...
tomorrow you'll have to do it again...
Q: Why do 90% gals have left boob bigger than right?
A: Because 90% boys are right handed.
Q: What is the difference between a PANTY & a STAGE CURTAIN?
A: When you pull down the STAGE CURTAIN, the show is over, but when
you pull down the PANTY.....
Q: Why do 90% gals have left boob bigger than right?
A: Because 90% boys are right handed.
Q: What is the difference between a PANTY & a STAGE CURTAIN?
A: When you pull down the STAGE CURTAIN, the show is over, but when
you pull down the PANTY.....
it is SHOWTIME!
underwear VS panties
I have a tattoo, actually I have 3 tattoos. My first was a butterfly, I just had to get because it was valentine's day when I got it and I realized then I was headed to a divorce, butterfly= freedom. My second tat is of a Celtic knot in the shape of a heart. My dream is to see Scotland, especially the castles of Scotland. One day that dream will come true. Third tat I have is of a pink pantie. The reason I have the pink pantie is because I love guys in panties but that is not what I tell those who ask about the tat. One day a colleague of mine asked about it recently, she called it underwear. I just smiled and nodded. It seemed as if she was afraid to use the word pantie. I don't know why women won't acknowledge the name of the garment for what they are panties. It seems it is a difficult word for women to use when referring to this garment but not for the guys. To me it just seemed strange a garment I wear all the time, I refer to as panties why can't other women use the word.
Just another thought after looking at the Fruit of the Loom advertisement, panties VS underwear does it make a difference? The picture is my pantie atttoo.
underwear for every man
I have been trying to get back to this blog for days now, if not weeks, but with school back in session it seems my life has been taken over by my profession. I am a Teacher Librarian at a middle school. As a librarian I get to look at the mail as it comes into the library. I happened to pick up the Sports Illustrated NFL Preview issue. I like to read a little about sports so I can at least know and understand what is happening in the world of sports.
Anyway as I was flipping through the magazine I came across an advertisement for Fruit of the Looms. The ad caption is underwear for every man. I had to smile and laugh because I know a few guys that Fruit of the Looms aren't the underwear for all men! But I also know guys who wear panties but keep boxers around. Even my own pantie guy loves panties but when it comes to work wears boxers because he feels if his work crew found out he wear panties there might be a revolt or a lack of respect. Anyway take a look at Sports Illustrated are Fruit of the Loom the underwear for all men?
5 Ways to Have Sex Without Having Sex
There are times in life that something happens when you can't have sex with your partner. Pregnancy, postpartum, injury, or even when you have your period ... if you aren't into sex when Aunt Flo is around.
That's when you have to get creative. You can have sex without technically having the traditional definition of sex.
And dare I say it's sometimes even better than sex! Why?
Because you are still engaged, still connected, still doing something passionate together. Sometimes penetration is overrated. And sometimes having sex without having sex is a kinky way to switch things up a bit in your love den. Here are five ways to do it ....
1. Masturbate together. If one of you cannot do the deed, the other one can still take matters into their own hands while the other is watching. If you can both masturbate together, then go for it! Have you ever seen your partner reach orgasm while you were just an innocent onlooker? It's hot. I highly suggest you try it sometime. One time, he can do it. Then the next time, you can.
2. Have oral sex. Oral isn't just the appetizer to sex -- it can be the whole meal. And I don't know about you, but I love when my man takes his time downtown. Like double-digit minutes kind of time. And if you didn't get the male memo already, he likes you to spend some time down there. It doesn't matter who is getting or giving oral, what matters is that it is done with that ravenous lust you had when you first started getting it on.
3. Let your hands and mouth roam. Kissing too often falls victim in long-term relationships. Pop a mint, make it fresh, and make out. Kiss his neck, lick his nipples, nibble on his ear, squeeze his butt -- pretend it's prom night and you had a pact not to do it in the limo but you still had to steam up the windows.
4. Watch a sexy movie together. If you can't do it, the next best thing is watching other people doing it. It will still get your loins hot and your partner will be right there next to you, getting all hot and bothered, too. Take mental notes and reenact the scene when sex gets the green light.
5. Write down a fantasy and read to each other. Words can be an aphrodisiac ... especially words written by your mate. Especially carefully chosen words that describe sexual acts they want to do with you. Explore your kinky side, even if the naughtiness will only be a fantasy. It's always hot to hear and express those dirty desires.
Have you tried any of these? How do you have sex without having sex?
That's when you have to get creative. You can have sex without technically having the traditional definition of sex.
And dare I say it's sometimes even better than sex! Why?
Because you are still engaged, still connected, still doing something passionate together. Sometimes penetration is overrated. And sometimes having sex without having sex is a kinky way to switch things up a bit in your love den. Here are five ways to do it ....
1. Masturbate together. If one of you cannot do the deed, the other one can still take matters into their own hands while the other is watching. If you can both masturbate together, then go for it! Have you ever seen your partner reach orgasm while you were just an innocent onlooker? It's hot. I highly suggest you try it sometime. One time, he can do it. Then the next time, you can.
2. Have oral sex. Oral isn't just the appetizer to sex -- it can be the whole meal. And I don't know about you, but I love when my man takes his time downtown. Like double-digit minutes kind of time. And if you didn't get the male memo already, he likes you to spend some time down there. It doesn't matter who is getting or giving oral, what matters is that it is done with that ravenous lust you had when you first started getting it on.
3. Let your hands and mouth roam. Kissing too often falls victim in long-term relationships. Pop a mint, make it fresh, and make out. Kiss his neck, lick his nipples, nibble on his ear, squeeze his butt -- pretend it's prom night and you had a pact not to do it in the limo but you still had to steam up the windows.
4. Watch a sexy movie together. If you can't do it, the next best thing is watching other people doing it. It will still get your loins hot and your partner will be right there next to you, getting all hot and bothered, too. Take mental notes and reenact the scene when sex gets the green light.
5. Write down a fantasy and read to each other. Words can be an aphrodisiac ... especially words written by your mate. Especially carefully chosen words that describe sexual acts they want to do with you. Explore your kinky side, even if the naughtiness will only be a fantasy. It's always hot to hear and express those dirty desires.
Have you tried any of these? How do you have sex without having sex?
Why Men Love Dirty Talk
1. He doesn't expect it.
"I think the reason I like it is it goes against the stereotype we learn at young age that women are innocent little creatures who would never deign to think about sex. On some level that's why I like porn too: here are women who not only like sex, but are willing to do it with a relative stranger for the whole world to see."
2. It shows self-confidence.
"Dirty talk speaks strongly to self-confidence. A woman who is comfortable talking dirty is going to be less sexually inhibited and it's that confidence in bed that I find most attractive. And a woman who is more confident will also be less embarrassed about asking for what she wants, making it easier for me to do what I know she likes. But it's the confidence thing that's a real turn on."
3. It makes him feel special.
"I think it's like a secret flash of skin, or the nipple across your arm. Selected exhibitionism. She's treating you to something not everyone gets to see. Something that could get her in trouble. And you're the one who gets it."
4. It heightens the experience.
"Whether through role playing, acknowledgment, or conversation, talking dirty exposes the vulnerability and intimacy of sex. It confirms that a partner is completely in the moment, and has surrendered to the uninhibited energy that feed toe curling, hair pulling, neck biting worthy sex."
5. It's encouraging.
"It lets me know, or makes me think, she is as into the moment as I am. It's a sign of approval that what I'm doing is working, and gives me encouragement to push our boundaries. It speaks directly to my animal brain and takes ordinary making love and turns it into hot monkey love. My wife of 23 years is normally quiet in bed, and often I will "suggest" exact phrases for her to say. Sometimes it's a starting point for her to expand upon, more often she repeats it verbatim and sounds convincingly sincere. I would LOVE her to be more talkative in bed in general, and REALLY LOVE if she would use explicit language."
"It lets me know, or makes me think, she is as into the moment as I am. It's a sign of approval that what I'm doing is working, and gives me encouragement to push our boundaries. It speaks directly to my animal brain and takes ordinary making love and turns it into hot monkey love. My wife of 23 years is normally quiet in bed, and often I will "suggest" exact phrases for her to say. Sometimes it's a starting point for her to expand upon, more often she repeats it verbatim and sounds convincingly sincere. I would LOVE her to be more talkative in bed in general, and REALLY LOVE if she would use explicit language."
Do you like talking dirty in the bedroom? Leave a comment.
Is this true, for you?
When most bra wearing humans think about brassieres, they think about support, comfort, picking one that doesn’t dig into their shoulders painfully, ones they won’t accidentally fall out of, ones that flatter the figure. But there are some bra wearing humans for whom the mundane applications of brassiere wearing are irrelevant. There are some for whom a bra is not just an item of clothing, but a fashion accessory that says, Yes! I Dare!
I disagree with the writer of that hub page. I don't purchase bras solely for the purpose of support or comfort. The bras I purchase are sexy, sensual and erotic. But I do also have ugly bras that i wear when i want just comfort and support but they are not at all sexy, at least not in my mind.
the pictures are of my lingerie, i wear daily
so what do you think?
Underground Railroad
Evening,
This will be the last post of the class I was taking, African Americans, slavery and education of free slaves. todays bus trip took us to a couple of slave graveyards ( flag markers). Then the last stop on the bus trip was a stop on the underground railroad. It is unusual for anyone to have a marker of the underground railroad. The routes of the underground railroad was never marked for fear of retribution.
I am glad I took this class even though on many class days I didn't get home until very late. I also learned that growing up in the north (NJ/NY) I didn't know of segregated schools but people of my same age went to segregated schools in Virginia. Life was different north and south of the Mason/Dixon line.
Now to wait for the fall classes to be listed, I want to take the next class on the civil war.
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